The other day I realized how much my struggles with my gardens reflected my own path in life. Boundaries were a big issue. Having respect for all life and being able to identify most wild plants, I struggle with which ones to pull out when things get out of place or when they grow outside the garden boundaries.
I also have a tendency to put up with alot whether it's within relationships, a job or with my animals until I reach the turning point where the situation has become intolerable or I'm overwhelmed with responsibility. But I've learned that it doesn't need to be that way as long as you set your boundaries along the way and eliminate that which you don't want within your garden (and your life) and that includes unwanted plants, people and animals that you don't resonate with, as well as any undesirable circumstances. Being clear about what you want and what you don't want, is sometimes the hardest part of living and making decisions for it sets the groundwork for what will come to pass.
I also realized that I absolutely love to create and have a tough time with maintenance. I just like to let my gardens evolve into what Nature intended and see what comes up. While this can be a great way to find surprises of incredible beauty and color combinations which only Nature can imagine, it can also make things look unruly while the process is going on. My job as the creator and maintainer of my gardens, is to decide when to allow and when to control. When do you act and when do you let things slide? It's all a question of balance and remaining true to yourself when things don't feel right.
Life is the same way. Sometimes it's easy to start a new relationship, friendship or job with high expectations. You put everything in to it and everyone is usually on their best behavior, but then as time goes on you realize that the choice you made might not be all that you expected or intended. As the growing pains occur and the everyday activities and situations evolve (and sometimes not so pretty) suddenly you question what it is that you even saw or intended in the first place. In the case of your garden, this is when you either start moving your plants all around because they don't look right and perhaps start making a mess of things because it takes a while for things to come together, or you just sit back, give it some time and trust the process by waiting to see what happens.
Whether it's a garden, a job, a relationship or bringing a project to completion, maintaining the course while things get difficult and problems start to arise can sometimes be extremely challenging, particularly during chaotic times on this planet. While I've always been a free spirit and an independent thinker and generally only give in to boredom, routine and constant problems for a little while, I have also been known to persist when I shouldn't have. The key question here is when is it worth it to stick out the turbulent times and know that better times are imminent and when do you just cut your losses and move on? For me, it's all in the foundation, original intention and the messages you get along the way.
Did you spend time getting to know the land first and the light patterns before you started building your gardens and/or your house? Did you think about what the weaknesses and strengths of the landscape were? Did you think about what makes you happy whether it's color patterns, combinations and/or textures and what the materials you use and the plants you choose will attract-- birds, butterflies or perhaps nothing? Does your garden create a peaceful, serene environment or a joyful, energetic feeling? Do you want your garden to evolve and grow as you do, or do you just want something that is functional, controlled and requires little maintenance? The results will reflect the choices you have made.
"The births of all things are weak and tender; and therefore we should have our eyes intent on beginnings." --Michel de Montaigne
All these questions can be applied to life as well. Does your potential job promise you everything at the outset or immediately hit you with a barrage of corporate do's and don'ts? Do you get uncomfortable at the interview but overlook things that you initially dislike to tolerate because you need a job? Or if it's a relationship, does this person remind you of someone you once had a bad experience with or are they too good to be true at the onset? Trust your intuition and gut instincts. There's usually a good reason if some image or feeling comes to mind at the beginning. Really taking time to get to know the company you're intending to work for, the house and land your intending to buy or the person you're planning on spending the rest of your life with takes time and effort to see all facets of the situation clearly. Once the decision is made, the rest is commitment and riding through the not so easy times.
Once you've laid your foundation and you're clear about what you want, stay the course and follow through despite whatever may come up. Being clear about your intentions and doing the groundwork will inevitably lead to good results. One of the most important things my gardens have taught me is patience and that good things come to those who wait. The outcome may not be what you initially expected, but it will be exactly what's needed and will take you to the next level in your life path.
These are unusual times we're experiencing-- times of great turmoil and times of tremendous miracles. The key to riding the waves of energy that are occuring on this planet is to be clear about your intentions, do the work necessary to achieve your desired outcome and be flexible to whatever may happen knowing that all is working out as it should. The choice is always yours as to how you want to see the situations that present themselves. It is, after all, your garden and your life.
And if faced with seemingly intolerable circumstances out of your control-- bloom where you are planted. There's always a greater plan that you can't see from your present vantage point.
Blessings of Joy!
Copyright 2011 Awen Environments/Clarissa Harison.